Thursday, June 27, 2013

What Really Matters

As we get older, we realize that the only things that we need in life, are those that we love. The relationships that we build, the memories that we share – nothing else really matters.

I woke up the other morning and picked up my cell phone and went through the usual routine: check emails, read texts, scroll through my news feed on Facebook... I read that my wonderful friend Gabriela's mother passed away. It's times like that when you wish that you were closer to your loved ones. You want to be able to hold them and tell them that you love them. No beautiful beach, or incredible hike can replace the ache that you feel when you're so far away. Lucky for us, technology makes the distance a little less painful and I was able to call her and tell her I loved her. Just hearing the sound of her voice made me feel just a little bit closer.

Kurt's first blog post was explaining why he decided to quit his job and move across the world. We share the same vision in that we really believe that life is too short not to take chances. We didn't want to wake up one day and say "I wish I had.....". I am really proud of the two of us for making the change and following through. I dedicate this post to Gabriela and her family to always help remind us what really matters. Spend time with the ones that you love, tell them that you love them and never take any time you have for granted.

I have a great partner. Traveling with someone is never easy. Moving across the world with someone is never easy. Language barriers, culture shock, the humidity, heat exhaustion are just some things that we face every day. I am thankful for the man who shows me so much patience day in and day out. There have been some very stressful times during this move and it is nice to know that I have Kurt to figure things out with. I wanted everyone to know that he is adapting to this "life" with so much grace and humility that it inspires me. It isn't easy to be the one who doesn't speak the language but he manages to always stay positive.

The reason for the post is to express that no matter how exciting this adventure is, and how many great things we are experiencing - we keep in mind what really matters. We think of our friends and families back home and remind ourselves that we couldn't do this forever. That ultimately, our relationships are the only "real" things in this life. In Kurt's nature, i'll put a positive spin on this and share some fun pictures from this past week.

One of the perks of quitting your corporate job? You dont have to shave! We're talking about Kurt here - not me. This is right after he shaved off his chops. Yes, he had sideburns, but we decided they had to go. Mustache and goatee are still in the running, so we will have to wait and see who makes it to the finals.


Below is a photo of a worker sleeping in the luggage compartment of a travel bus. Please note that we are traveling on the FREEWAY. Yes - we are fully aware that Indonesia has no rules, that are followed at least.
All of my friends and family know that i am quite the workout junkie. My main drug of choice is CrossFit. I have been extremely lucky because the only box (CrossFit lingo for gym) is owned by an old friend of mine from middle school! This photo was taken after an exceptionally tough "WOD" (workout of the day). I feel very fortunate that my partner shares the same passion for fitness and health as i do. Some may call us crazy, but im OK with that as long as we're crazy together :)


This last picture i have posted is of my friend Gabriela Cadena and I in Seattle last year. I wanted to share a little story about how i met this lovely lady. Sometimes i feel that we are able to detach ourselves from a story because we dont know or cant relate to the face. I wanted to share a little bit about our friendship so that it becomes real for you.When i first moved to the US, i worked at "The Mix" ice cream store in the University area. One lovely night, a beautiful girl and her siblings and some friends came in. I was so love struck by their genuine friendliness that i gave them all free ice cream! That was 8 years ago. I have always felt a close connection to Gabriela because of her free spirit and the closeness she shares with her family. I have been lucky enough to get to know siblings Jacob, Carlos and Elena throughout the years we've been friends. The closeness they share is something that i have always admired. I cant count the times this girl has moved cities, apartments and houses - but we've always managed to keep in contact. I just wanted to put a face to a name so that you can pray for her Mama and send her all the love she needs to get through this hard time. Love you Gubs! <3

Keep those that you love close to you.

All my love,



  1. According to my poem--- you were not supposed to come to the realization that life is all about friends and family until the END of your adventure! :). Well I guess you are ahead of the game and it will make your adventure all that much better! See you in a few days!

  2. Lucky for you - we are aware of how precious time is and therefor are SUPER EXCITED TO SEE YOU! Fly Safe!
    Love, K & E

  3. Oh Stelle - you are such a good friend, Gabriela is a lucky girl to have friend like you! We never lose that ache, that feeling of loss when a loved one passes, but I think we do come to see life as more precious and more meaningful, especially the small and seemingly insignificant things. Sharing a sunset, sharing a little face time with the ones you love, getting a birthday wish from you mom (it's coming soon isn't it?) Hold tight to the memories you make with Kurt on this big adventure of yours and they will always be in your heart - you will carry them with you where ever you go in life. I love you tons! Gabriela and her family are in our prayers, as are you and Kurt. LM